Misunderstandings ...

Angela Maria De Nobrega Freitas, BSc Hons., Social Sciences, Open University, DipGeog., Open University. - MLit., Literature, studied, Open University, MPhil., and Playwriting, studied, Birmingham University. □□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□□ You know when there is a situation and a person we may care about perhaps chooses to misunderstand us in some way. Is that because its easier to choose to misunderstand a person rather than be a caring person and choose not to be obverse - not to be prejudicial - I don't know, we have to be bigger than a potential prejudice, and we have to be able to cope with situations which create misunderstandings, especially when we don't fully understand the basis of a mis-understanding, or realised indeed a misunderstanding had occurred. Misunderstandings don't work between people who are trying to understand each other. Friendship means comprehending one another in a positive way, sharing a commitment, sharing thoughts, being serious about the person we are committing to, it doesn't mean offending a person we may love, it means sharing a unity of thought which is not in any way derogatory.

Unity of thoughts which are positive contribute to our well being and is a healthy way to be. We should engender feelings that contribute towards the well-being of one and another. Misunderstandings don't work. They don't work for many fundamental reasons. We can't move forward with people we would like to move forward in life with if a misunderstanding enters the framework of the relationship. We can't have a relationship founded on suspicions and unfounded misnomers, misnomers that enter a relationship create a framework that is founded instead on untruths, we owe each other the validity founded on generosity of spirit, and kindness, and especially if we are trying to establish a nice, caring and respectful foundation for each other, if we are not used to being with the person we are trying to communicate with we have to break down barriers that may lead to mis-communication. And if we haven't actually met the person we would like to have a conversation with there is a higher than slight potential for misunderstanding and especially if we are both sensitive people very much interested to know what the other person means, I speak honestly and directly, I don't circumvent around the edges to try to say something, of course it helps if in the instance of writing as a way of communicating with a person that we have good and efficient tools to work with that do not hinder us and in fact is a medium that helps us bridge the distance of time and place. That it helps us communicate efficiently and actually brings people together who need to talk. Angela Maria De Nobrega Freitas